How Should An Islamic Wedding Party Be? Marriage Feasts In The Islamic Manner
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I am a new muslim and my parents are
Christian, they agree to take part in a islamic
wedding but what are the steps we need to go about it?
they are having it at their house and agreed to the
food and beverage requirments for the party following
the ceremony. We are trying to have it so that
everyone is comfortable. but I have no idea what to do
before during or after and want to make sure
everything is in place so that later I don't have to
find out that it is void because of a step not taken.
I thought we were already married but I found out that
we did not do it right.I need to know.
Praise be to Allaah.
For information on the steps involved in a correct
marriage contract, please see Question no. 2127.
With regard to having a wedding party in the Islamic
manner, you have to keep away from the things which
are forbidden in sharee'ah but which many people do
not pay attention to during celebrations, such as the
With regard to the woman: going to a male, non-mahram
hairdresser to have her hair done; or adorning herself
in ways that are haraam, such as thinning the eyebrows
by plucking them, or wearing tattoos, or wearing hair
extensions, or other kinds of haraam things, because
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) cursed the one who plucks eyebrows and the one
who has that done, the one who adds hair extensions
and the one who asks to have that done; imitating the
kuffaar in their dress, because usually the wedding
dress shows many of the woman's charms and her body,
in such a way that the dress is very revealing - we
seek refuge with Allaah – and also a great deal of
money is wasted on the dress.
Among the haraam actions that have to do with the man
are: shaving his beard for the wedding night, which is
done on the grounds that this makes him look more
handsome, but this is something which is haraam
according to sharee'ah; letting one's clothes hang
below the ankle (isbaal).
There follows a list of haraam things which both men
and women should avoid in the wedding party:
1- Mixing of men with women, and things that are
involved in that, such as greeting and shaking hands
with one another, and men and women dancing together,
because all of that is haraam and is a very serious
2- Taking pictures, whether men do that amongst
themselves or women do that amongst themselves.
3- Drinking alcohol or eating pork.
4- Letting the husband come in to where the women are
in order to take his wife.
5- Women wearing revealing, tight or short clothes
amongst themselves, because this is haraam – so how
about wearing such things in front of men?
6- People should avoid spending extravagantly or going
to extremes in showing off in wedding parties, because
that may wipe out the blessing.
7- The husband and wife exchanging rings and thus
imitating the kuffaar, thinking that this will
increase the husband's love for his wife and vice
Finally, both partners should know that the more the
teachings of Islam are followed in the wedding party,
the more blessed their marriage will be, the more love
and harmony there will be between them, and the less
problems they will encounter in their married life.
For if the married life is based from the outset on
haraam things which go against the commands of Allaah,
how can they expect the marriage to be successful
after that? There have been many marriages in which
there were things that went against the commands of
Allaah, and they did not last. Fear Allaah with regard
to this party and keep it free of things that are
forbidden in Islam. May Allaah bless you both. We ask
Allaah to give you and your husband strength. May
Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.
And Allaah knows best.