Can She Masturbate If Her Husband Cannot Satisfy Her Desire?
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for ur answer, but unfortunately it did not answer my
question. The thing is, that we have tried every
possible way there is to satisfy me, we have talked
alot about it, we read a whole lot about it, but still
havent been successful. Now my husband has said that
he wants me to masturbate after we have had
intercourse, so that i also get satisfied, because he
is not able to do so in any which way.
But my question to u is: Am I allowed to masturbate
after we have had intercourse if my husband cannot
satisfy me with any method at all? I have my husbands
permission. The only thing I need to know, is that if
it is allowed in Islam to do so if the husband is not
able to satisfy his wife at all?
I hope you will be able to help me, as this has
started to effect our marriage life.
I have been married for 3 years now and love my
husband very much. our problem is that my husband
cannot satisfy me sexually at all, not with hand or
anything else. We have tried all methods but it just
doesnt work. This has become a big issue in our
marriage, and makes me wants to masturbate as i dont
get satisfied at all. My question to you is: is it
allowed for me to masturbate in order to satisfy
myself to stay happy in my marriage if nothing else is
Praise be to Allah.
The basic principle is that masturbation is haraam.
Please see the answer to question no. 329
That is only permitted if a person fears that he may
end up committing zina; no doubt the prohibition on
zina is more emphatic, and it is more abhorrent and
reprehensible. Hence it is permissible to commit the
lesser of two evils so as to ward off the greater.
Ar-Ruhaybaani (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If a
person, man or woman, masturbates with no need to do
so, that action is haraam and he should be given a
disciplinary punishment for it, because it is a sin.
But if he does it because he fears falling into zina
or homosexuality, or because he fears physical harm,
then there is no punishment.
End quote from Mataalib Ooli an-Nuha Sharh Ghaayat al-Muntaha,
Al-Mirdaawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
We learn two things from this:
1. That masturbation is not permissible except in
cases of necessity
2. The ruling for women on that matter is the same as
the ruling for men, if a woman fears falling into zina.
This is the correct view, as stated in al-Furoo'.
End quote from al-Insaaf, 10/252
What the husband must do is give his wife her rights
to kind treatment. One of the most important matters
to which he must pay attention in that regard is
keeping her chaste so that she will not look at other
men, and giving her her rights in matters of intimacy
as much as possible, even if that means using
aphrodisiacs and paying attention to nutrition.
If the husband reaches climax quickly, before his wife
is satisfied, then he has to try hard to stimulate her
first, even if that is with his hand or body, and not
start to have intercourse until she is ready for that,
and then she can reach climax through intercourse.
If the question is about masturbation with the hand,
what difference is there between the husband's hand or
her own hand? Why can't he do that for her, and why
should she do that herself?
What we think is that the husband should do that, and
it is better if it is before he has intercourse with
her, then if she needs anything else, he can stimulate
her again after having intercourse, so that her needs
will be met.
There is nothing wrong with him consulting a
specialist doctor, if he is suffering from any kind of
And Allah knows best.