Is She Sinning By Attending Wedding Parties That Involve Reprehensible Things If She Sits Far Away And Helps Them With Cooking etc?
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wedding parties in our country include drums, singing
and dancing. Is there any sin on me if I go to the
party and sit far away from where the singing is
taking place, especially at weddings of my husband's
family and my family, where I can't not go and help
with permissible things such as cooking etc?
Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible to attend wedding parties that
include reprehensible things such as singing
accompanied by drums or other musical instruments,
apart from the daff, or mixing between men and women,
or other evils, except for one who is able to denounce
that and thinks it most likely that he will be able to
put a stop to the evil by denouncing it.
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: If a
person is invited to a waleemah in which there is sin,
such as alcohol and musical instruments, etc, and he
can denounce it and put an end to the evil, then he
must attend and denounce it, because then he will be
fulfilling two obligations: accepting the invitation
of his Muslim brother and putting a stop to evil. But
if he is unable to denounce it, then he should not
attend. If he does not know of the evil until he gets
there, then he should put a stop to it, and if he is
not able to, then he should leave. Something similar
to this was said by al-Shaafa'i. End quote from al-Mughni,
It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah: If the
wedding party is free of evils such as mixing between
men and women, promiscuous singing and so on, or if
she attends she will be able to change the evils, then
it is permissible for her to attend in order to share
in the joy. Rather attendance is obligatory if there
is some evil that she is able to put a stop to.
But if the party involves evils that she cannot
denounce, then it is haraam for her to attend, because
of the general meaning of the verses in which Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And leave alone those who take their religion as play
and amusement, and whom the life of this world has
deceived. But remind (them) with it (the Qur'aan) lest
a person be given up to destruction for that which he
has earned, when he will find for himself no protector
or intercessor besides Allaah"
"And of mankind is he who purchases idle talks (i.e.
music, singing) to mislead (men) from the path of
Allaah without knowledge, and takes it (the path of
Allaah, or the Verses of the Qur'aan) by way of
mockery. For such there will be a humiliating torment
(in the Hell-fire)"
And there are very many ahaadeeth which condemn
singing and musical instruments. End quote from
Fataawa al-Mar'ah, compiled by Muhammad al-Musnad, p.
If your going to the wedding and taking part in the
cooking etc will not result in your listening to the
evils, or approving of them or helping in them, such
as if the place where the evil actions are being
committed is far away from you, or you will be able to
leave before they start the reprehensible actions,
then there is nothing wrong with your going in that
case, but you should offer them advice and explain to
them the rulings on these evils, and tell them that it
is haraam to take part in them.
In his commentary on the verse (interpretation of the
"And it has already been revealed to you in the Book
(this Qur'aan) that when you hear the Verses of Allaah
being denied and mocked at, then sit not with them,
until they engage in a talk other than that; (but if
you stayed with them) certainly in that case you would
be like them. Surely, Allaah will collect the
hypocrites and disbelievers all together in Hell"
al-Qurtubi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: "then
sit not with them, until they engage in a talk other
than that" means, talk other than kufr; "certainly in
that case you would be like them". This indicates that
it is obligatory to avoid those who commit sin if they
openly commit an evil action, because whoever does not
avoid them is approving of what they are doing, and
approving of kufr is itself kufr. Allaah says
"certainly in that case you would be like them". So
whoever sits in a gathering where sin is committed and
does not denounce it has a burden of sin just like
They should be denounced if they speak of or do sinful
things; if a person is not able to denounce them, then
he should get up and leave them, so that he will not
be one of those mentioned in this verse. End quote.
Al-Sa'di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
This also includes attending gatherings where sin and
immorality take place, where the commands and
prohibitions of Allaah are taken lightly and the
limits that He has set for His slaves are
transgressed. It is forbidden to sit with them "until
they engage in a talk other than that", i.e., other
than disbelieving in the verses of Allaah and mocking
them. "certainly in that case" means, if you sit with
them in those circumstances, "you would be like them"
because you have approved of their kufr and mockery of
Islam, and the one who approves of a sin is like the
one who does it.
To conclude, the one who attends a gathering in which
Allaah is disobeyed is obliged to denounce them if he
is able to, or to leave if he is not. End quote.
Tafseer al-Sa'di, p. 217
And Allaah knows best.