Ruling On A Woman Letting A Man Know That She Wants To Marry Him
Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
Islamically , Is it okay for a sister to let a brother
(in islam) know that she cherishes him and she has the
intention to get married to him? Is it considered to
be bold approach?
Praise be to Allaah.
nothing wrong with a woman letting a man know that in
principle, however the woman should not propose
herself, rather it is better if that is done via her
wali (guardian) or someone else who can let the man
know. This is indicated by the fact that 'Umar (may
Allaah be pleased with him) offered his daughter
Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and 'Uthmaan (may
Allaah be pleased with them).
Shaykh Dr. Khaalid al-Mushayqih
Marry Him? Our Degree Of Knowledge About Islam Is Very
a problem as regard marriage. I am engaged to my
cousin. we are both muslims, but out degree of
knowledge about islam is very different. Infact i wear
the hijab and try to be a good muslim while on the
other hand he tries to be a good muslim but i get the
impression that he is not trying hard. He is a very
nice and sweet person, but sometimes i am scarred that
he would not be up to standard as regard islamic
practices.. for example on the weekend he goes
clubbing with his friends. I am scarred and confused!!
Should i marry him? we decided to get married in 5
years time, so is there time to charge him? He is
always accusing me of trying to change him, but i want
him to change for the better. What should i do?
Praise be to Allaah.
We share your
fears concerning marriage to this man, and we urge you
to agree to marry a man who is religiously committed
and of good character if one comes and proposes to
you, because the Prophet (Peace And Blessings Of
Allaah Be Upon Him) said: "If there comes to you one
with whose religious commitment and character you are
pleased, then marry (your female relative under your
care) to him, for if you do not do that there will be
tribulation in the land and great mischief."
The decision mentioned in the question to get married
after five years is strange, but so long as your
relative has chosen this lengthy period, you have
plenty of time to find someone else who is more
suitable, if such a one should come and propose – so
long as there is no marriage contract (nikaah) between
you and your relative. If no one who is more suitable
comes along during this time, it is permissible for
you to marry him (your relative), so long as He is a
Muslim and he is not doing anything that would put him
beyond the pale of Islam. We ask Allaah to give you
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid