Talking To One's Wife Over The Internet And Finding Pleasure In That
Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
I work in
Saudi Arabia. Praise be to Allaah, I adhere to the
Sunnah as much as possible and I offer prayers
regularly in the mosque, praise be to Allaah. This is
the first time that I have left my family behind,
because of the children's schooling. When I talk to my
wife over the Internet (audio and visual), I sometimes
ask her to show me part of her body, and this causes
intense sexual provocation which I cannot resist, so I
masturbate with my hand to ward off this desire. Does
this come under the heading of the verse "Except from
their wives" [al-Mu'minoon 23:6] or of enjoying one's
wife? Please note that I am aware that masturbation is
haraam, but this is my wife whom I am looking at. What
should I do? Please advise me, may Allaah reward you
Praise be to Allaah.
permissible for a man to find pleasure in speaking to
his wife and looking at her or at her picture in a
chat program, so long as he takes precautions so that
no one else can see or spy on him.
With regard to masturbation with the hand, the general
principle is that it is haraam, except in the case of
one who fears that he may fall into zina, in which
case it is permitted.
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him)
was asked: Is it permissible for a married couple to
talk about sex on the telephone and provoke one
another until one or both of them reaches climax,
without using the hand because it is haraam? This
happens because my husband is always travelling and we
only see one another every four months.
He replied: There is nothing wrong with it; rather it
Question: What if it involves using the hand?
Shaykh: Using the hand is subject to further
discussion; it is only permissible if the person fears
that he may fall into zina.
Questioner: And without using the hand there is
nothing wrong with it?
Shaykh: Yes, without using the hand there is nothing
wrong with it; he may imagine himself being intimate
with her and there is nothing wrong with that. End
See also the answer to questions number 4807 and 329.
And Allaah knows best.