Why Is It Forbidden For A Man And A Woman Who Are Not Mahrams To Have A Relationship?
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a Muslim date? I'm an extremely strict Christian but I
have Muslim friend who I'm trying to understand.
Praise be to Allaah.
Islam forbids a man to be alone with a non-mahram
woman (one who is not his wife or a close relative)
even if he is teaching her the Qur'aan, which is the
Book of Allaah, That is because the Shaytaan (Satan)
would come between them. The Prophet of Islam (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "No man is
alone with a woman but the Shaytaan will be the third
one present." If this woman wants to hear about Islam
and read about it in detail, she can look at books
about Islam that have been translated into different
languages, so she can take the language that she
understands, then if she understands what attracts her
to Islam, she can become Muslim. If she does not
understand something and wants someone to explain it
to her, it is permissible (for her to speak to a man)
so long as there is no khulwah (being alone with a
member of the opposite sex) involved – so she could
have a mahram (close relative) with her, or a group of
women, and the man should be a trustworthy Muslim, or
a group of trustworthy men who could sit with this
woman and teach her about Islam so that she can
understand it and proof be established for her. This
Shaykh 'Abd-Allaah ibn Jibreen
Allaah wants to make the Muslims pure, hence He
forbade them all means that may lead to evil,
immorality and obscenity. You know that if a man is
alone with a woman and starts a relationship with her,
this relationship often leads to bad consequences, and
that being alone with a member of the opposite sex is
the way to immorality and fornication. It is not
permissible for a man to praise himself and say, "I
will be not affected by being alone with a woman."
Islam does not allow the opportunity for things to get
out hand; it keeps people away from the steps that
might lead to that in the first place. The rulings of
sharee'ah were revealed for all people, it is not the
point that there are cases of khulwah which do not
lead to haraam actions such as touching and kissing.
Why should a person expose himself to temptation?
Is it not the truth that if a man is alone with a non-mahram
woman and there is no one else present, that something
may cross the mind of either of them, even if nothing
actually happens. But frequent meetings may indeed
lead to something happening.
In this case, sharee'ah closes all doors that may lead
If a woman needs to speak to a man for a genuine
reason, or vice versa, then that may be achieved by
sending letters, without having to meet, or they may
meet from behind a screen, or in the presence of
others so that no khulwah will be involved. This is
provided that both are modest and wear concealing
And Allaah is the Guide to the Straight Path.